Parenting Styles: What Fits

Parenting, just like individuals, can take on a style of its own. In fact, there is a body of research that indicates specific parenting practices are less important in predicting child well-being than is the style of parenting. Take this test to find out your parenting style. This test can also be taken by your spouse to help you find how well your parenting styles match. We all share some of the traits from all of the categories. Take this test to see which of the categories is your DOMINANT style. Once you're aware of your dominant style, you work to make changes if need be.

This Parenting Style Inventory (PSI) will help you assess your parenting style and help detect any similarities and differences between you and your partner relative to your parenting styles. Each parent is to take the PSI individually. Read each statement carefully and decide how much you agree with it. There are no right or wrong answers so select the response that most accurately represents your position. The resulting graph will reveal your distinctive parenting style and show any similarities and differences in you and your partner’s parenting styles.
The highest you can score in any of the four Parenting styles is 35. First, find the category with your highest score on the graph. The closer you are to 35 in that category, the more dominant this style is for you. Because we usually make up a range of styles, you should be able to see how the other styles contribute to your dominant style as well.


1.Discipline isn't effective unless it hurts somehow, even a little bit.
2.Rather than confront my child, I give him or her a lot of space.
3.I don't expect a lot from my child so I overlook a lot of things.
4.I trust my child to make the right decisions.
5.Parenting is like a war, if parents lose, everyone loses.
6.Given the right environment, children can pretty much raise themselves.
7.The parent's role is similar to that of a teacher.
8.Children make mistakes and mistakes are okay.
9.I have to stay on top of my child in order to get things done right.
10.A parent's job is to always make the child happy.
11.Children can learn without punishment or consequences.
12.Punishment or consequences are sometimes necessary.
13.Children have to learn that the parent is the boss.
14.I allow my child to set his or her own bedtime (or curfew).
15.I would take an active role in my child's school, but factors in my life makes this difficult to do.
16.Parenting is a noble responsibility.
17.My child often makes me angry and I will raise my voice and yell when addressing him or her.
18.My child has no regularly-scheduled chores around the house, but pitches in occasionally.
19.My child has always been able to be up and out in the morning without any help or input from me.
20.Each child is a unique individual and must be treated accordingly.
21."Do it my way," is my parenting philosophy.
22.As a parent, I have trouble getting organized.
23.When my child misbehaves, she or he should already know the consequences.
24.I am usually aware of my child's feelings.
25.I give my child very specific instructions as to how things should be done.
26.I wish my child wouldn't interrupt so often.
27.My child can solve his or her problems without my help.
28.I respect my child's wishes, even though I may disagree with them.